Setting Impossible Goals: Reframing Your Past, Present, and Future
In this engaging episode of their podcast, Dr. Betsy Dovec and registered dietitian Hannah Schuyler dive into the intriguing concept of setting "impossible goals" by reframing one's past, present, and future. Drawing inspiration from Dr. Benjamin Hardy's book, 10X is Easier Than 2X, they explore how these principles can be applied not just in business but also in personal development, weight loss journeys, and overall wellness.
The episode kicks off with a light-hearted banter about Dr. Dovec's love for audiobooks and her penchant for bringing back new reads from her travels. This sets the stage for a discussion on the importance of continuous learning and personal growth. They highlight the significance of having a solid foundation in both business and personal life, emphasizing that "you can't scale broken." This mantra resonates throughout the episode as they encourage listeners to assess their current situations before embarking on ambitious goals.
As the holiday season approaches, Dr. Dovec and Hannah remind listeners that now is the perfect time to reflect on their aspirations. They define "impossible goals" as those daunting objectives that may feel just out of reach, like losing a significant amount of weight or achieving a personal milestone. The duo emphasizes the power of visualization and manifesting these goals, encouraging listeners to picture themselves in their desired future—whether that’s fitting into a dream outfit or living a healthier lifestyle.
The conversation takes a deeper turn as they discuss the importance of reframing past experiences. Dr. Dovec shares her perspective on how past struggles can be transformed into valuable lessons, fostering resilience and strength. Hannah chimes in with her own experiences, illustrating how seemingly negative events can lead to positive outcomes and personal growth.
Throughout the episode, the hosts stress the importance of being intentional in the present. They discuss how daily choices impact future goals and the necessity of eliminating distractions that don’t serve one’s purpose. With a sprinkle of humor, they tackle the challenges of navigating social situations, especially during the holidays, and the importance of saying no to things that don’t align with one’s goals.
As they wrap up, Dr. Dovec and Hannah encourage listeners to embrace their journeys, celebrate small victories, and stay focused on their impossible goals. They invite audience interaction, urging listeners to share their aspirations and experiences, creating a sense of community and support.
With a perfect blend of insightful advice and relatable anecdotes, this episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to redefine their goals and approach the new year with renewed vigor and optimism.
00:00:00 - Introduction to Impossible Goals
00:01:00 - The Importance of Personal Development
00:02:30 - Book Recommendations: Traction and 10X is Easier Than 2X
00:03:45 - Scaling Success: Business and Personal Growth
00:05:00 - Defining Impossible Goals
00:06:30 - Visualizing Success: The Power of Imagination
00:08:00 - Overcoming Doubts and Fears
00:09:30 - Celebrating Wins Along the Journey
00:10:45 - Transforming Habits for Success
00:12:00 - Reframing Your Past for a Better Future
00:14:30 - The Butterfly Effect of Decisions
00:16:00 - Recognizing Resilience and Growth
00:18:00 - The Importance of Being Present
00:19:30 - Intentional Choices for Future Goals
00:21:00 - Balancing Present Enjoyment with Future Planning
00:22:30 - Taking Action Towards Impossible Goals
00:24:00 - Mindset Shifts for Achieving Success
00:25:30 - Saying No: Prioritizing Your Goals
00:27:00 - Personal Stories and Experiences
00:29:00 - Encouragement for the Holiday Season
00:30:30 - Closing Thoughts and How to Connect
Transcript
So today we are going to be chatting about setting
Speaker:impossible goals by reframing your
Speaker:past, present, and future. And Hannah, a lot of
Speaker:this is based off of something I listen to in my personal
Speaker:development podcast I always listen to and
Speaker:all of these things and books and editorials
Speaker:on business, and one I recently heard was about
Speaker:Dr. Benjamin Hardy, who wrote a book called 10X is
Speaker:Easier Than 2X, which is kind of catchy,
Speaker:but I listened to a few things about him, and I will tell you, this
Speaker:applies to all of life, to not just business or money or
Speaker:financial gains, but also to your own journey, to
Speaker:your weight loss goals, to whatever it is that you want to do in this world. I
Speaker:think that the kind of deep diving on this book and his learnings
Speaker:Pretty much. I mean, I just do it all like when I'm driving all
Speaker:over town. I do audiobooks a lot. I do audiobooks. Sometimes
Speaker:I do have my Kindle and everywhere that I visit when I travel, I
Speaker:love to read. That's like my favorite thing to do on the airplane because the Wi-Fi is
Speaker:garbage and you're almost held hostage to just
Speaker:relax. You can't do anything. I don't
Speaker:really want to watch a movie. I really do. seriously
Speaker:enjoy these kinds of, you know, other people's perspectives. And
Speaker:I really do. I know. I know. I love it. Cause it's funny
Speaker:cause like Joni in our office and I will be like, you'll
Speaker:go on vacation. We're like, all right, what's she coming back with this time? And last
Speaker:time you did, or not this past month, like a couple of
Speaker:months ago, you went on vacation and you came back and, uh, at
Speaker:our next meeting, I was like, Joni, she's bringing a book out. And
Speaker:you did. I have it right here. I have it right here.
Speaker:It's called Traction, Get a Grip on Your Business. And
Speaker:this book was recommended to us by our customer
Speaker:relationship management tool called Boost. He is the
Speaker:CEO of that. So if you're listening and you're in private practice, or if you
Speaker:even run any type of business, whether it's in health care or not, you
Speaker:need to read Traction. They have an entrepreneurial operating
Speaker:system. And it just talks a lot about having
Speaker:the right people in the right seats and defining your core
Speaker:values and your core vision and
Speaker:just really how to put all of this data and things that you
Speaker:analyze on a weekly basis into identifying
Speaker:the patterns and trends and, honestly, transforming your business
Speaker:to success. And we've done that. We put back our weekly meeting,
Speaker:our weekly tactical. We actually just finished it. And I think
Speaker:it really helps us to get organized. And ultimately, you
Speaker:can't scale broken. You can't help people. You can't improve
Speaker:access to care if your foundation is cracked and just
Speaker:your operations aren't good. So anyway, I think again, even
Speaker:in weight loss, even in health, fitness, your wellness journey, you
Speaker:Well, that's what I was about to chime in and say like, yeah, this,
Speaker:yeah, of course these are business principles and things like that, but like, that's
Speaker:such a great point of, I like that idea. Like you can't scale broken. And
Speaker:so if you're trying to do this, this journey and
Speaker:these setting these now going back to the impossible goals and you're starting
Speaker:from like a broken spot, like, we got to fix it first and
Speaker:we have to put tools in place and you have to go and we're going to
Speaker:talk about, you know, the why and that can be
Speaker:kind of like you're talking about those core values and it's those similar kind
Speaker:of principles. So a lot of this stuff really does also translate into
Speaker:that personal development, you
Speaker:know, track that we're looking at here and not just that professional business
Speaker:Absolutely. So there is a lot to hear. I hope that you are listening. We're
Speaker:recording this at the start of December. So this is right in
Speaker:the prime of holiday season. And it's also right
Speaker:about to turn the page of another year. And we
Speaker:all want to set goals, we want to reset. And I
Speaker:think we also just heard our Holiday Headwork Masterclass
Speaker:about mindset tools and therapy strategies that
Speaker:will help you through this season. And she had some things in
Speaker:there I think that were just so important as well. Laura did, our
Speaker:bariatric therapist. And it really made me think, why
Speaker:put yourself behind the eight ball? Like, no time like the present.
Speaker:And let's start to really be thoughtful about what we
Speaker:want to do and what is an impossible goal.
Speaker:I think to me, it's one that maybe you've
Speaker:tried before to reach it and it just, you
Speaker:weren't able to once, or maybe it's just something that just, you
Speaker:can't, you kind of can't see the forest for the trees. So like something,
Speaker:you know, people are like, I can't lose 100 pounds. I
Speaker:mean, obviously that's what we focus on so much. It's just weight loss. So I can
Speaker:use that as kind of a simple example because like, yeah, you've, maybe you've
Speaker:tried it on your own 8,000 times before and you haven't
Speaker:been able to do it. Um, And, but
Speaker:maybe you've seen other people, they've been able to do it. Maybe, you know, like
Speaker:back in, back of your head, like that needle, I call it, like when
Speaker:you have a task you need to do, but it's that same kind of thing that like nagging of
Speaker:like, I think I could do it, but it feels,
Speaker:Yeah. I also think about, you know, we
Speaker:talk a lot about visualizing or manifesting and really
Speaker:having that vision board and seeing yourself down
Speaker:150 pounds, seeing yourself not
Speaker:at the doctors or not taking your meds or in a specific outfit,
Speaker:like really specific. And it might be like, okay, I'm
Speaker:going to put this out there a size four. pink
Speaker:dress that's short with these heels, knowing that
Speaker:your shoe size is going to go down. And we're like, no,
Speaker:you have to see it because we see it all the time. When you look at Instagram, obviously
Speaker:it's a highlight reel, but it is real transformations and
Speaker:it's meant to not make you feel bad, but to give you hope that
Speaker:that person just like you at this time, just one year ago,
Speaker:didn't think that they would be now on a billboard or
Speaker:like in this on a website or in this story or
Speaker:just, you know, wherever, just living this life. And
Speaker:that's what I want you to do. So it might seem impossible, like you said,
Speaker:to lose a lot of weight because you've tried it so many times
Speaker:before. And because of your genetics, because of
Speaker:so many different lifestyle factors, because of, you
Speaker:know, you didn't respond to the medications like everybody else did. You
Speaker:know, like, life sucks. Life is not fair. Why is this? But seeing
Speaker:yourself after surgery transformed, you
Speaker:got to visualize it. must see it. And we can see that for you. How
Speaker:often do we talk about our crystal balls and be like, I know exactly what
Speaker:you're going to be like, what you're going to look like, how your body language will change,
Speaker:how your confidence will improve. But sometimes
Speaker:I feel like patients just can't see it for themselves because it
Speaker:It does. Yeah, absolutely. I just had that conversation with somebody the
Speaker:other day who was like, she's
Speaker:getting ready for surgery. And I was chatting with her and she was just like,
Speaker:I just think this isn't going to work for me. And I was like, I understand.
Speaker:I understand you think that because you've never done
Speaker:this before. And I was like, but. this works for people. It's
Speaker:a tool. You still have to put in work. It doesn't do it for you. And
Speaker:she was emotional about it. It just
Speaker:felt so overwhelming because she's like, I've been doing, I've been cutting the calories, and
Speaker:I have lost one pound. And so this just isn't
Speaker:going to work for me. And I was like, no, but there's so much more
Speaker:in this than just cutting calories. That
Speaker:It is kind of magic. Immediately afterwards, I think it's magic.
Speaker:I really do believe it and I know it. And I think that by
Speaker:having the impossible goal, even more so, you know, we talk
Speaker:a little bit about celebrating the wins and the, you know,
Speaker:scale victories, non-scale victories, the little things along
Speaker:the way in the journey. I also think it is so
Speaker:important sometimes to think of the end results and
Speaker:then really look at every single scenario that you're in
Speaker:almost as a, you know what, I want to
Speaker:get there, so I have to say no a lot more. I
Speaker:have to say no to things like, okay,
Speaker:do you want to go to this party? If you know that, man,
Speaker:I actually don't really want to go, before you're worried
Speaker:about hurting somebody else's feelings, you're going to start thinking about your own
Speaker:a little bit more because you have that goal. And it makes it a lot easier, I think. I
Speaker:mean, the same thing with even our business goals. Sometimes
Speaker:people will ask us to come out and give a talk for like a small
Speaker:organization or something, but sometimes it's like, oh, I would love to like
Speaker:impact those five people potentially that might be there present, but that
Speaker:is not my big goals. And that's not going to get me. So unfortunately, I'm
Speaker:going to have to decline on that opportunity. But I already have it all set out this strategy
Speaker:and this goal. And that makes it easier. Because whenever I'm just
Speaker:focusing on what it is we're trying to get to and accomplish that impossible
Speaker:Yeah, and I think that you know that that
Speaker:really goes into that why and you know why am I doing this
Speaker:and and really honing in on that and it you know it
Speaker:can be it's that why of seeing that number on the scale and maybe
Speaker:that's it but usually there's something deeper there there's some other thing so I
Speaker:think it makes it easier to eliminate those distractions,
Speaker:eliminate those things that aren't serving the purpose if
Speaker:you really focus on why do you want to
Speaker:do this and have a good reason for
Speaker:it. Then I think also it's a
Speaker:total transformation. It can't just be segments of
Speaker:your life. It can't just be, oh, I'm going to
Speaker:do one little thing. You really have to put, and maybe
Speaker:it's for a period of time. It's not necessarily that some of these things that you're
Speaker:going to do forever. But again, I talk to people about this all the time, about
Speaker:being on the starch-free diet. I'm like, this isn't necessarily
Speaker:a forever thing. Some people choose to stay on that for a long time.
Speaker:But you got to really just, you
Speaker:got to hone in on it for this period. to be
Speaker:successful from what we've seen. Like you said, we've got
Speaker:the crystal ball and I see people that say, well, at six months, I added
Speaker:them back in and then they move into maintenance and they weren't
Speaker:ready for it. It's like, okay, well, we got to go back. You got to keep that
Speaker:momentum that you initially had going and then we see you're great,
Speaker:good. We can move into maintenance and that's amazing long-term, but you
Speaker:have to really transform everything that you
Speaker:I love that. And I love what you said about when something is no
Speaker:longer serving you, then just let it
Speaker:go. You'll see that a lot when people are like, I used to, I
Speaker:used to drink alcohol all the time. And then I woke up, I
Speaker:was hung over, I was not productive, I felt lousy, I
Speaker:had a headache, I had fun, maybe for
Speaker:a little bit of time, I don't remember, like, Is
Speaker:that serving me in the way I want to achieve my impossible goals? If the
Speaker:answer is no, then okay, then that maybe is another
Speaker:one that you just kind of let go of. I think that what you said is really good. What
Speaker:drives you? Why are you doing this? Why do you want this?
Speaker:Why is that vision so impossibly amazing
Speaker:though, at the same time? Like, how do I transform? How do I get there?
Speaker:And I think the biggest thing that I
Speaker:heard about this Dr. Benjamin Hardy and his work
Speaker:with this 10x is easier than 2x was his
Speaker:thoughts on the past, the present, and the future. I
Speaker:absolutely loved his thoughts about reframing your past.
Speaker:So it is so important that we all
Speaker:realize, again, things are tough and things
Speaker:have happened to every single one of us. We
Speaker:haven't gotten something we really wanted. We really worked hard for. We
Speaker:have tremendous loss. We grieve. We have really
Speaker:negative things that happen to us. Some of us more so than
Speaker:maybe others. I guess there's really no comparison to
Speaker:how it makes you feel. But some people were abused. Some
Speaker:people had really tough childhoods. Some people had parents that
Speaker:abandoned them. There's all these things. And with that story, you
Speaker:have a choice on how you perceive
Speaker:that and how that will reshape your life
Speaker:and how your past can actually be seen as something that makes
Speaker:things better. So, for example, you had something
Speaker:that you feel like you failed at, you feel
Speaker:like, you know, it was a really insanely difficult
Speaker:time for you, but you could use that as a place of gratitude that
Speaker:I am thankful that that happened to me because I learned this valuable
Speaker:lesson. I would not be who I am today. My value system
Speaker:is even different because of that experience. And
Speaker:I feel like that struggle has made me undeniably stronger
Speaker:and more mature. in my age at this point in
Speaker:the present. And I love that. Like some of
Speaker:the things, you know, like this institution or this job
Speaker:or this experience, that was not good for me. I'm like, I am thankful,
Speaker:so thankful for some of those things that happened because I
Speaker:feel like I'm in such an amazing place because of it. How
Speaker:do you feel about your past and the way you kind of, what is your perspective
Speaker:Well, it's, you know, we talked about this a few episodes ago
Speaker:and we talked about, you know, what was like a big decision in your life that, that
Speaker:changed kind of the trajectory or like, just like, what
Speaker:is one of the biggest decisions? And one of those, I said, for me, it was like deciding
Speaker:to kind of not go into medicine. And so
Speaker:that's one of those things that it has negatively, you
Speaker:know, mentally, probably more than anything, it was a tough decision to make. And
Speaker:it felt, sometimes it felt like I'm letting myself down or am I
Speaker:letting other people down or whatever, but like, Ultimately, it led me to
Speaker:here and I can reflect back and say, you know what, maybe that was just you
Speaker:recognizing what you needed in your life and what you needed, you
Speaker:know, in your career to lead the life
Speaker:that you want, you know, didn't necessarily want to end up in that grind
Speaker:of 80 hour weeks and, you know, things like that. And
Speaker:then of course, obviously it ultimately led me to moving the places
Speaker:that I moved and getting the jobs that I did and meeting my husband and having Elena
Speaker:and like, It's that butterfly effect kind of thing. I
Speaker:think that it's just one of those that you can kind of look back and see like, okay,
Speaker:even years ago I applied for some internship that I
Speaker:didn't get and it hurt. I was fresh out of college and I
Speaker:didn't know this was even before I went back to become a dietician. like
Speaker:didn't know what I wanted to do next and felt really lost and then it was
Speaker:like got kind of punched in the gut of like oh he didn't also get this you
Speaker:know and it's like again that would have literally sprung
Speaker:me into a different like field into I wouldn't
Speaker:have become a dietitian like potentially like so just all those
Speaker:things so I do think it's like recognizing that Yeah, sometimes they suck
Speaker:and they can suck for a long time and they can really be hurtful and
Speaker:you can feel all of that. But in the long run, is it something that
Speaker:may ultimately benefit you and, you know, kind of
Speaker:get you ending up where you kind of are meant to be, so
Speaker:Ah, yes. It is not seeing
Speaker:and focusing and only seeing the negative in every situation. It's
Speaker:more of a preparation. Every struggle you've
Speaker:done, you are strong. You're so
Speaker:resourceful. That's actually, I think, one of your superpowers, is
Speaker:that you Like, you will not accept,
Speaker:no, I can't figure this out. Like, you're always
Speaker:this yes ands. I mean, you're now building websites.
Speaker:I just see that you're on the brink of, like, a
Speaker:huge explosion. I hope it's always with me by your side. And we say
Speaker:that all the time, but I'm not allowed to update my resume, you guys. She's
Speaker:told me. No, she's not. Because I'm at her
Speaker:house a lot, and when she goes to the bathroom, I'm in
Speaker:her files, and I'm making sure I find that resume file.
Speaker:I will find it. We share a chat, GPT, so
Speaker:I'll know if you're trying to use some actionable words to
Speaker:start each little paragraph describing your skill set. I will find
Speaker:you. But yeah, I feel like you're just
Speaker:so equipped to tackle anything life throws your way. And
Speaker:you're getting just better and better. Even in the two
Speaker:and a half years since I've known you, it's remarkable just
Speaker:watching your growth. And I can even see in myself watching
Speaker:my own growth. And it's not like a, oh,
Speaker:even bringing it back to your weight loss journey. When
Speaker:you think about like, oh, I always quit diets. I've
Speaker:joined Weight Watchers a thousand times. I spent thousands of dollars. I
Speaker:never follow through. If I could just try harder, I'm
Speaker:such a loser. I mean, stop that. I
Speaker:know that like Laura calls it stinking thinking and we're like, I
Speaker:mean, that is. I mean, it sounds like kind of a basic
Speaker:description of it, but that is what it is. It's like stop with the negative, like
Speaker:start your days with the wins, like practice gratitude, really
Speaker:just see how you're growing and just recognize the life lessons
Speaker:that have been thrown your way of realizing that you're incredibly resilient.
Speaker:And we all are. We all are. Absolutely.
Speaker:Reframe it. What did this teach me? What lessons do I
Speaker:learn? How can I move forward? And I
Speaker:mean, we focus on this a lot with Project Reset as well. And
Speaker:that is, you know, our 12-week group
Speaker:therapy kind of mindset with Laura, our therapist, and
Speaker:she really focuses on that positive and
Speaker:That's not easy. It's not easy. It's not easy. The silver lining
Speaker:can be sometimes hard to find. But
Speaker:then it moves you into like, I think to like recognizing how How
Speaker:does that translate into how things are going now, too? Of
Speaker:course you have to say, this happened in the past, but now it's like, so
Speaker:what's going on now and being really intentional with the
Speaker:present at this point? Because then you want to take what you've learned and
Speaker:actually apply it, right? It's one thing to recognize it,
Speaker:Exactly. We can all articulate some amazing, we
Speaker:can string lots of words together that sound really, really good. But
Speaker:yeah, how do you make sure that you put it in action, like you said, and
Speaker:how do you ask yourself, like, how will this choice right here in
Speaker:the present at this moment help me get the future
Speaker:I want? And it's not so much, you know, we're always like, be present, be
Speaker:in the moment. Well, there's a lot of There's a lot of
Speaker:It's really hard. It's so hard. It's funny because
Speaker:my husband and I have talked about this before about how like we're very different people.
Speaker:And I am like fairly firmly in the present. Not
Speaker:like necessarily that I'm not like looking at my phone or,
Speaker:you know, I'm like always just with you, but like I am like
Speaker:the future is going to happen and it's going to come and, you know, things are. And he
Speaker:lives like 20 years in the future. He's like planning out.
Speaker:He's like, you know, our retirement and
Speaker:all of this and blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, we know from
Speaker:each other that we have to figure out the balance in between those two things. And
Speaker:saying, like, I got to bring him to the president, and he's got to
Speaker:remind me, like, Hannah, we can't spend all our money because someday we
Speaker:want to retire, you know? And so
Speaker:I think that figuring out maybe you're not recognizing that
Speaker:you're like that, that I have a hard time with making those decisions sometimes
Speaker:of saying, like, this is my goal. I have a
Speaker:hard time seeing that outcome of that goal, because I'm just like,
Speaker:oh, it's just this is today, and I'm doing this today, and then there's
Speaker:tomorrow, and then there's the day after that, and not seeing like, okay, well,
Speaker:if I actually want things to change, you have to like, you know, today,
Speaker:Yes. Yes. Showing up consistently, making steady progress,
Speaker:always keeping that impossible goal at the forefront. Asking
Speaker:yourself questions about whatever it is. Is the
Speaker:healthiest version of myself, whatever you define that as, and get specific,
Speaker:which is kind of hard. Because even when you do this for
Speaker:business or something, it's like, okay, what is my 10X goal? So
Speaker:you can look at volumes, number of patients treated, you
Speaker:can look at the money. But it goes
Speaker:beyond that, and you have to give yourself time to
Speaker:think, put on that 528 hertz frequency
Speaker:music or whatever, and just be
Speaker:in that shower. Like you said, just let your brain
Speaker:go down the rabbit holes of what this goal looks
Speaker:like, and really live it, feel it, breathe it,
Speaker:see it, want it, all of the things. Today,
Speaker:what am I eating? Is this worth it? Do I even want this? Why am
Speaker:I eating this? Understanding the trigger or the
Speaker:emotional connection to whatever it is and that cycle and all
Speaker:of that sort of thing. And how do you spend your time now
Speaker:to help you to get there in the future? And what habits do
Speaker:you need to do? And how do you just keep pushing
Speaker:and keep staying in that game with that vision in
Speaker:Oh yeah, absolutely. And I think that kind of
Speaker:leads into like the other thing that Dr. Hardy talks about is like
Speaker:looking to the future as, you know, how
Speaker:do you want to operate? You want to operate from the future. Again, my
Speaker:husband's great at that. I struggle on that one. I know.
Speaker:Because you don't want to enjoy your life. You don't want to not enjoy your life, you know?
Speaker:That's true, too. Sometimes we are so hyper-focused on our
Speaker:retirements. And we're like, jeez, it's going to be hard to move
Speaker:then. So you take the trip. Take the vacation now. Do this thing. Yeah,
Speaker:like, you know, YOLO. But at the same time, it's
Speaker:like, I want to live, like, this best life. And I also
Speaker:just finished the book by Tim
Speaker:Grover. And it's called Winning. and the
Speaker:I is the number one, and he has 13 rules because
Speaker:he doesn't believe in superstitions, and he has every single
Speaker:one, so it's not like this is the most important. So be not kind
Speaker:of fazed by the fact that every single one of these 13 tidbits
Speaker:are all labeled the number one. And it talks
Speaker:a lot about, he was the trainer for, I talk about his other book, Relentless,
Speaker:all the time, from Good to Great to Unstoppable, and he trained
Speaker:Michael Jordan, and just even how he got that
Speaker:gig. This was before people went outside of
Speaker:the NBA for their trainers, and he went to
Speaker:Jordan and the team, and he basically was trying to
Speaker:ask if they would take this unknown trainer. He had a very specific
Speaker:plan, he studied, he came prepared, he gave it to Jordan, And
Speaker:MJ, as he calls him, was like, all right, I'll give you 30 days. Prove
Speaker:it. And then he lasted 17 years with him. And he got him through all these
Speaker:championships. And it was just in his thinking. And
Speaker:to do something that's so unbelievable or so
Speaker:impossible, you have to do something today that nobody
Speaker:else is doing or your former self wasn't doing. And you have to kind of like believe
Speaker:in the vision that you can get there. He
Speaker:also trained Kobe and he has lots of thoughts on LeBron and
Speaker:Dwayne Wade and a lot of these other athletes. Again,
Speaker:it doesn't matter what we're talking about. Business, athletics, healthcare, personal
Speaker:development journeys, your own weight loss, whatever. It
Speaker:all resonates that you need to have something audacious.
Speaker:It's big, hairy, audacious goals is what they call that, BHAC, and
Speaker:all of these things to help you to just redefine your baseline, like
Speaker:your average quote. That's when you're anxious. That's when you're miserable
Speaker:if you're not living the life that you are destined to live. I'm positive on that.
Speaker:Yeah. Well, yeah. Cause I think that you can have that like, Oh,
Speaker:I, I should be, or I could be, or I'm capable of mindset.
Speaker:Like I can do so much more, you know? Yes. Absolutely.
Speaker:Yeah. Listen to that. Listen to that voice. And then
Speaker:Yeah. Say no more. I think that we all need to do that. We're
Speaker:so consumed with hurting somebody else. We talked about
Speaker:this example the other night at Holiday Headwork. Oh, Aunt Susie, she
Speaker:brought her favorite German chocolate cake. Oh,
Speaker:I made it just for you like I do every year. Here it is. Hannah, you're
Speaker:so excited about that. Here it comes. And then it's almost
Speaker:like, but that's not all my treatment this year, but
Speaker:I made it for you. And, well, you don't want
Speaker:to be rude or, you know, they went to all this effort. Let me take
Speaker:it home. I'm like totally stuffed today. I'll take it home and throw it
Speaker:Like, it's okay. No one needs to know. You know what, on that
Speaker:one, first of all, Aunt Susie, I don't like coconut, so
Speaker:please don't make me a German chocolate cake. You know, I think, The
Speaker:other thing, it's like, who cares about our feelings sometimes? I can't
Speaker:be in charge of everyone's feelings all the time. And if it hurts your feelings, it's
Speaker:not my intent. I appreciate, I can say thank you for
Speaker:doing this for me, but I'm not going to eat it. And if that hurts your feelings, you
Speaker:know, sorry, you're probably like 80 and can deal with it.
Speaker:You can deal with it. Well, I'll tell you. No,
Speaker:you are perfectly direct and as
Speaker:you should be. I'll tell you, my sister, she
Speaker:doesn't listen to my podcast for some reason, so she wouldn't hear this, but sometimes
Speaker:when we were together, we would always make holiday cookies and then
Speaker:we would have lady locks. It was my favorite cookie on earth
Speaker:and things like that. I just don't really eat
Speaker:sweets anymore. I made this decision after I gave birth to Liv. I
Speaker:was eating a huge snack every night. We talk a lot about that. basically
Speaker:like, how is this serving? Like, what are you doing? Do you even want
Speaker:it? Are you even hungry? Like, and then when you kind of get out of the habit, you really
Speaker:stay out of the habit. And all of a sudden, that really helped me kind
Speaker:of a lot with that and yada yada. But anyway, so
Speaker:when it comes to Christmas, I mean, it's just another day for
Speaker:me. I don't know. I mean, I love that like other things about it. And
Speaker:it's even trickled over there. And she's like, really eat the damn cookie. Like
Speaker:you can't eat the ladylock. Are you kidding me? Just eat the cookie. You're annoying. You're
Speaker:And I'm like, well, why does it matter to you
Speaker:if I eat the cookie or not? She's like, oh, you're so boring.
Speaker:You're lame. This sucks. Why aren't you eating it? Lame. Thank
Speaker:you. And I'm like, well, you do you. I don't want to eat the lady luck. I
Speaker:just don't even want to go there. It's just like not the same to me anymore. It's like
Speaker:not part of my habits and I don't want to. So therefore I
Speaker:don't. And I feel like I'm at the point in my life where I
Speaker:can now say to her, like, get away from me. Like, just shut up.
Speaker:Like, it doesn't matter. But I know that's really, really hard
Speaker:if that felt like that is your identity. But again, the past does
Speaker:not define you. It can be easily reframed to
Speaker:who you are now. And if that offends somebody else, so
Speaker:be it. That is their problem, not yours. Mind your
Speaker:own plate. Mind your own plates said
Speaker:I stole that from someone. I love it.
Speaker:Don't yuck my yum. Same kind of
Speaker:Seriously. Well, I hope that this holiday
Speaker:season that all of you really just get
Speaker:through this and you have a joyful season.
Speaker:I know that for some of you, this is your first bariatric holiday
Speaker:since having surgery. For some of you, you have lost
Speaker:this year. It's been a tough year. For some of you, it's been an amazing year.
Speaker:And wherever you're at, I hope that you can still see that the
Speaker:future is bright, it's never over, and that
Speaker:you are willing to set those impossible goals and tell us about them too.
Speaker:We would love for you to text us, message us, subscribe
Speaker:Let us know. And also if you ever need a scapegoat, just
Speaker:tell them I said you can't do it. I don't care. Throw me under the bus. That's
Speaker:good. You know what? They don't know me. That's true.
Speaker:You could probably even DM me and I'll probably respond right then and be like, can I have this? And I'll
Speaker:Give us like a winky face emoji or something so we
Speaker:We need a code to help you so that you start those impossible goals.
Speaker:Answer with no. Got it. Assignment
Speaker:understood. I can't wait. I know some of you will do this because you guys
Speaker:are such loyal listeners and I always crack up
Speaker:whenever you quote something we say on these. I sometimes forget people
Speaker:I know. I'm like, oh, right. It's not just us talking to
Speaker:It's like another moment, but we're just recording it. This is us all the
Speaker:time talking and thinking and strategizing. Hey,
Speaker:you guys, I do have one thing that Hannah did
Speaker:this week. So Hannah, this week, she
Speaker:started to record voice memos in
Speaker:the shower and start sending them to me. So
Speaker:guys, I know I'm exposing it because I think
Speaker:Well, I was loving it. Because you know, we talk about the shower all the
Speaker:time. Constantly. Unless I'm just sick of it. And they're like,
Speaker:stop talking about being in the shower. But I was in the shower and it was a
Speaker:super random time. It was like noon on a Saturday because,
Speaker:so I'm working on this other project outside of work hours. So I've
Speaker:been like staying up late and like Friday night I fell asleep
Speaker:on the couch. Like I was working and then I like closed my eyes
Speaker:and fell asleep on the couch. I didn't take a shower. So it was like middle of the day Saturday.
Speaker:I was like, okay, I'm kind of gross. I'm going to take a shower. But then you had started texting
Speaker:me about something or I don't remember. And then I was like, I and
Speaker:I've told you this before, but like, I'm not a big writer. I'm a
Speaker:talker and figure that one out. Yes. Yes. And so I was
Speaker:like, wait a second, like, let me, I was like, these thoughts are like coming to
Speaker:my brain and I'm like, wet. It was like, my hands are wet. I'm in the shower. So
Speaker:I'm like, I like search on my phone, like voice record. And
Speaker:I found the thing. And so I record it and I listen back and
Speaker:you just hear like this. in the background of my shower
Speaker:running. I loved it. And I sent it and I was like, you know what? My
Speaker:That's fine. Well, with your recent possible goals,
Speaker:you're going to be making all kinds of loot. So hopefully those
Speaker:drops. There you go. Sorry. Yeah. Sorry, planet earth.
Speaker:But I need her in that shower at all times creating
Speaker:and thinking. I love it. All right. Well, Hannah,
Speaker:Tell us where they can find us. You can find us on Instagram at
Speaker:the weight loss collab at Dr. Novak at Hannah Skyler
Speaker:dot Rd. Body by Bariatrics. You can Text
Speaker:us at Body by Bariatrics at
Speaker:407-543-0971. If you are ready to start to meet those
Speaker:impossible goals, hit us up. Or if you are already on
Speaker:your journey and you've got some things set, we of course want to hear those. So
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